Note To Self



 I think I put too much pressure on my professional life to be better than the best when I realised that my personal experiences are going to be different from others. I wanted my professional self to excel in everything she took up. When I realised I could be a top ranker and pushed her hard to stay on top. When she did well, I was proud of her. She got a gold medal and I was on top of the world, but when she didn't get what I wanted her to get.. I didn't want her to exist.

In the process of trying to keep up with my expectations, she lost her confidence.

I'm sorry girl. I shouldn't have treated you the way I did. You are the best with or without a job.

I'm sorry I didn't support you the way you supported me. 

I'm sorry for not letting you experience life in an attempt to make it perfect.

I'm glad you took to spirituality.

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