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Its been a while since i wrote something here... Although there have been quiet a few significant changes in my life, i fail to find something worth writing about. I have realized one thing in this process- you have always wanted something in your life but when you finally get it, you dont want it anymore. I'm i the only one who is so indecisive about things? It would be nice to know that i'm not alone but if there are others like me, didnt anyone find a way to deal with this? Is everyone looking for an answer like i am? Or is there an answer that i'm yet to discover. Looks like i have lost the creative essence in me. Earlier thoughts would just flow when i decide to write something but now i'm struggling to put words together.

My sister says its never too late to start. What should i write about? This June, it'll be an year since i have started working. Cant believe its been so long. I never imagined i'd come so far. Despite such an achievement i'm still greedy for something that'll make me happy. May be there's nothing wrong
in that but the problem is, i dont know what i'm looking for. What is that i want? May be a wheelchair free life that i cant have. Its not that i have been sad all my life. I think as a kid i was happy with whatever i had. Now when i know that there are so many things in the world that can be had, i'm just getting greedy. And when i know i cant have it, i'm drowning in disappointment.

Expectation brings disappointment they say but is it possible to live without expectations? Everything around me, from people i meet to the movies i watch make me expect something. Can i do something about it? I wish i could find answers to all questions in a book like i did in school.

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